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waiting game

court is just a couple of weeks away, and the intimidation tactics have started. my narcissistic ex and his lawyer have asked for financial documents for the past 3 years for both my spouse and myself.

not cool. not cool at all.

I guess they feel justified in invading my spouse's privacy because I don't have a job, and the state's administrative rules do say that if one parent is unemployed or underemployed due to the earning ability of a new spouse, that can factor in as a rebuttal to lower the other parent's obligation.

I have no objection to that. in fact, I agree with it. if my spouse made enough money that I could be a stay-at-home-parent by choice, it really wouldn't be fair for my ex to be forced to subsidize my lifestyle choice (although obligees are forced to subsidize the criminal lifestyle of incarcerated obligors who aren't ordered to pay support because they screwed up and got their asses thrown in jail, so "fair", in this state, is pretty weird).

but I'm disabled. I had a job, and I was busy embarking on a career when my narcissistic ex decided that the status quo was unacceptable and took every opportunity the past 5 years to inject instability into my life, through any means including emotionally blackmailing my kids. the end result is that I'm diagnosed with PTSD and an anxiety disorder, on disability and without the prospect of employment.

so where do they get off insinuating that I made the choice, or that my spouse enabled me to make the choice, to go without a job? it's sure not helping me prepare for retirement. it's not helping me reach any of my goals.

my ex and his idiotic lawyer can suck it. they don't have a right to the information, and they're not going to get it.